A month and a half ago,
I broke up with my boyfriend who I was in love with.
We had lots of fun together, he was incredibly supportive of my endeavors, and he treated me like a goddess more than any partner ever has.
‘So why in the hell did you end things with him?!’ You may be wondering.
At the ripe age of 31, I’ve been in and out of many relationships.
I’ve been married and divorced, lived with five partners, and been in four relationships that were 1.5-4 years in length. From the earliest days in each of these relationships, I felt a strong sense that the person wasn’t a great match for me. But… I chose to ignore these feelings until one and a half years, two and a half years, 4 years down the road, when I would finally end things… causing myself and my partner much pain and suffering in the process.
Now, I’m not one for regrets, and am grateful for all of my relationship experiences. Each of my relationships has brought immense learning and growth, along with plenty of love, intimacy, and beautiful memories. However, I realize that in many cases I could have saved myself (and many of my past partners) a LOT of unnecessary confusion and pain had I listened to my inner guidance sooner.
Back to my most recent relationship:
There were red flags from day one- even before our first date.
Yet, I allowed the attraction and chemistry I felt override my wise inner voice.
“This person is not able to be the partner you most need and desire,” my intuition told me. “He’s barely starting to get to know himself and just got out of a toxic relationship.”
“We’ll just see about that!” my rebellious mind shot back.
In the beginning, it was easy to shake off my intuition.
The newness, the excitement, and the strong feelings a new partner brings is powerful. It’s so powerful, in fact, that it can distract us from any reservations or red flags we may be feeling… at least for a while.
For many of us, we can ignore our concerns for months on end, even years. Unfortunately, doing so keeps us disconnected from our true feelings and prevents us from making our relationship better, or leaving a relationship that isn’t serving us.
Fortunately, due to my extensive experience ignoring my intuition in my romantic life, (and the numerous repercussions of that), I caught on fairly quickly this time.
I didn’t wait to end things until my mind was “100% sure that it was time to end things,” or until something really shitty happened. Rather, I ended our relationship when things were going fairly well, because I felt it was the right thing to do. I knew from past experience that listening to my intuition would be the best thing for both me and my boyfriend.
While I sit here today, still loving and missing my ex… I know without a doubt that I made the right decision.
How do I know this?
• Because there’s a feeling of relief, of inner peace, when we follow our inner guidance beneath the pain we may experience on the surface.
• Because I have 16 years worth of proof that my intuition is incredibly accurate, and following it ALWAYS turns out to benefit both me and the other person, (even if it’s not obvious at first).
• Because every time I have followed my inner guidance (even when it feels so hard I have to force myself), I’m always, always, ALWAYS glad I did.
How about you??
♥ Think of a time when you didn’t listen to your intuition about a big decision in your life.
How did that play out?
♥ Now think of a time when you did listen to your intuition about a big life decision.
How did that turn out?
When we’re committed to living our heart’s truth, sometimes we’re required to do things that are very difficult. But in the end, the more we follow our highest path, the more joyful, authentic, and fulfilling our lives become!
Here’s to listening to our inner guidance, (even with it’s hard), today and every day!